I think of Solstice as the contemplative wing of New Year Celebrations. We can use this time between Solstice and New Year to pause, turn within and reflect on our lives from a soulful & spiritual perspective. Then, we can step into the new year with a joyful, grateful heart.
Here Are 5 Contemplations For Sinking Deeper into SOUL-Stice:
* ACCEPT: What do I need to accept that I have not yet been able to? Sometimes acceptance is all we need to bridge the gap between where we are and where we truly want to go. When we finally wave the white flag of acceptance we release resistance and increase flow and forward momentum. Is there anything in your own life that is calling out for acceptance? True acceptance often brings a feeling of release and RELIEF. It can also be accompanied by grief or fear of the unknown.
* REFLECT: Take some time during the holidays to slow down and reflect on your precious life. Where have you been this year? What is happening in your life right now? Where do you want to go from a soul-level? Are you in a smooth and easy place or going through a big crisis or challenge? Believe it or not, until we stop and ponder, we sometimes don't even know where we are on the path of our lives. Take a break, sit down, get out that map and look to see where you are.
* RELEASE: Before we cross the threshold into the new cycle, we can ask ourselves.. "What has come to closure and what feels like it's complete or done?" This could be in any area of our lives. Maybe we have been hanging on by a thin thread to a relationship that has lost it's luster, or perhaps something that was once abundant and booming has waned. What do you need to release in order to move forward free and unencumbered? In those wise words of Joseph Campbell, "We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned in order to embrace the life that is waiting for us."
* RENEW: Renew the vows and commitments that make sense to you. Perhaps you had made an inner agreement with your soul at summer solstice and have completely fallen off the bandwagon. Renewal is a beautiful thing, and as the light slowly returns, there is a great opportunity for growth, rebirth, hope and renewal. Remember to only commit and renew your vows to those things that feel truly right and aligned with your body, mind, soul and spirit- the things that light you up! If something feels heavy or you are doing it out of guilt or obligation, you might want to consider letting it go.
* RECREATE: This is where the fun begins everyone!! What if your life were a total blank slate, a clean page in your journal, a field of completely untracked snow? What would you write on that page of your life? What tracks would you make in that untrodden snow? In any moment, we can recreate our lives anew. One of the best ways to do this, is to start with small turtle (baby) steps rather than taking a huge leap of faith, although that is sometimes the best option too!
Life is a magical adventure and has it's own way of taking us down many winding paths and through often rough terrain. It won't ever be perfectly polished. You will take out your journal and get on some kind of regular writing program then put it away for a year. You will make a commitment to yourself only to break it a month (or week) later. You will feel so resolved and complete in something, only to feel utterly confused in the next breath. You will let go of things that are not serving you, only to find yourself indulging in them again. It's all OKAY...really, it is.
Please don't make things worse by being hard on yourself. I think we grow and evolve more in spirals than staircases. We transform ourselves by learning as we go along this path that no one has walked before without much of a map or certainty. Sometimes, especially in the deep dark of winter, it can feel like we are just feeling our way around in a pitch dark room, and guessing as we go.
Again, it's all okay and YOU will be okay.
When you find yourself in that dark room or lost and feeling quite alone in the deep woods there is something you can always turn to and it's your own INNER SIGHT. Turn toward that light within- and it will guide you. This inner sight (which doesn't need the physical, literal eyes to see) is sometimes called intuition or inner knowing or our gut instinct. It's there for you whenever you come to a fork in the road, find yourself utterly confused on which way to go, or just want to thresh out and discern- this thing from that thing, this, no not that. Solstice invites us to turn toward and trust this inner wisdom even more deeply, to lean on it a bit in dark times and to TRUST it's more oblique whisperings. USE THIS TOOL!
It is not broken, it will never fail us as we become attuned to it, and we can practice using it for decisions large and small.
At this Winter Solstice time, my invitation is to trust yourself deeply. You get to decide what is complete. You alone get to feel out which vows need renewal and which ones aren't your own and only you get to step across this threshold space into the new cycle and new year with an open willing heart.
** And, if you'd like to step more deeply into this beautiful territory of soul, you might consider joining me for my next round of Women's Soul Support Collective (3 spots left), my Annual New Year's Day class at Embodied, or a day-long Soul Immersion Retreat in Shelburne Vermont. I'll see your shining soul there! And, don't hesitate to hit the word Comments to leave a comment below- I love hearing from you!
Happy Holidays Beautiful Wise Beings,